There are many ways for family members to show God's grace to older loves ones, such as being faithful to keep promises to call and being aware of their stamina levels and limitations during visits.
Learning to forgive freely and ask for forgiveness quickly are perhaps the most important ways that families can share this powerful characteristic of God with one another. Here are some other ways you can bring grace into the lives of your loved ones.
When planning visits or phone calls, pay attention to your loved one's schedule and preferences. A consistent sleep routine helps the body rest properly and is an important step to safeguarding health at any age. Learn when your loved one typically rises in the morning, starts getting ready for bed at night and if they often take naps around a specific time so that you don't accidentally wake them or prevent them from going to sleep on time.
Ask them about their daily plans as well such as when they like to eat and what activities they enjoy attending in their community. Though it might feel restrictive when trying to establish a schedule of your own, acknowledging their feelings will make your time together more meaningful and ensure they can focus on you and your conversations together.
It's common at any age to relish telling and retelling a favorite memory or to repeatedly share a funny or surprising incident that has happened recently. If you're loved one tends to rehash the same stories, remember the times that you've forgotten and repeated the day's happenings to your friends or spouse. If they always tell the tale the same way, ask them questions about it and make hearing it again fresh by learning more about their feelings at the time or details that they particularly found enjoyable.
Be patient if you can't change the topic when you'd like by keeping in mind that the contents of conversations aren't more important than the joy of being able to talk with your loved ones.
If your loved one vents often to you about their pain, frustrations and problems, listen with a caring attitude. This can be hard when your loved one is naturally inclined to complain, but don't dismiss their feelings. Like the boy who cried wolf, they might genuinely need help at times, and you need to be able to recognize those cries amid their normal comments.
There are many reasons a senior may be negative or grouchy but a few common ones include:
Physical pain and discomfort
Boredom and loss of purpose
Anxiety over lapses in memory
Side effects of medications
By knowing them and their habits, you can spot differences in their physical stance, word choices and facial expressions and instinctively know when something has changed. This lets you take action with their doctors and caregivers to address the root of their problem and catch potential issues early.
Posted on Mon, March 4, 2019
by Shawn Deane